i also think its totaly wrong that men beef up as a form of protection if they get into a spot of bother.........the bigger man will always walk away, but its not always as simple is it!!!
No, its not always that simple........two things which have personally promted me to think this way include real life scenario's like these:
1) I was walking though a rather 'out the way' part of the town one late afternoon, shoppers had quietened off alot, and this place is a shortcutish type way through two edge of town shopping 'precincts'. It is used, but youd only get one person or so going through every 15-20 minutes on a quiet day.
Id parked the car nearby, and was walking towards this area to get to the said shops. I heard yelling/shouting, as I got nearer I see this white girl who was about 15/16 years old and on her own and in the distance, 5 asian lads hollering after her (you see I didnt know whether they knew her or not), then it got crude like "get your top off for us" etc and she was ignoring them and heading towards the trainstation. Im left thinking shit, this could get very scary for the girl, Im the only one about, but what can I do? theres five of them and one of me, and they tend to carry knives around here, but on the other hand I cant leave her to it, or, thirdly, she might know them from school or college and its just banter...."hey, we just wanna talk to you! wait!" etc too.
I ended up just walking past, and as I walk past I hear them uttering disgusting sexual comments about this girl and calling her a cheap slut quietly amongst themselves (I wont repeat what was said). I decided to hang around within eyeshot to watch what was happening as they caught her up, with my mobile ready just incase theres any bother and still in short distance to wade in there if need be. There was more shouting, arguing, she told them to piss off, they followed her to the empty station like intimidation (they werent catching the train) and then after about five minutes they just went off thier own way.
Ofcourse, you run though many scenario's after the event....things you should have done, or said, like approach the girl and ask if she needs help, or wade in there and ask "if theres a problem", whatever.....
.......but Im not sure women can understand how that type of situation can make a man feel. You feel useless, you feel scared that you might have to tackle these 5 lads, or knowing those particular types they would be on the mobile phone quick smart and another 15 or 20 would arrive in the space of 3 minutes. Knowing that you couldnt handle yourself, or stop this lass or any other lass getting such shit from lippy and cocky pieces of shit does grate on me.
2) Again, shopping in the center (christmas shopping) and there had been a football match on, they were all streaming out of the grounds and towards the center. I nip into a shop, have a browse around, come out about 10 minutes later and Im walking down between two buildings that arent covered with CCTV. This (I thought crazy) woman came up and started talking AT me "If they do that again Im calling the police".......Im stood there wondering WTF she is on about, then I look down the wayside and theres three (proper hard bastard looking) lads using somebodies head as a football. They then pick him up off the floor and start a few fists to the head. Im like thinking "fuck me, what the fuck do I do now?", (as you do).....but then they stopped and were just having "words". I waited around again, phone poised on 999 ready, and they saw me watching and on the phone and decided to cool off. A few minutes later it seemed over, so I started walking away, then I heard another "sshmack" around the face, I turned around and theyd right hooked the poor bastard again and he was cowering crouched against the wall. But then the lads ran off to catch up with thier other crowd of mates.
Its NOT pleasant being in these situations and just standing by as a spectator. If you step in and cant handle yourself even basically, then you will be a 'stupid idiot' for interviening and the Police will condemn such actions, but if you step in there and see them off, youre being hailed a hero and you will be glad you could have saved somebodies life, stopped them being raped or whatever.
Do any of you know the case of Richard Whelan, aged 28? He was stabbed to death on a packed bus in London by hooded black youths just for telling them to stop throwing chips at his girlfriend. Nobody on the bus came to his aid until the gang had (quite easily) walked off into the night at the next stop. Some bloke on the bus wouldnt even lend this dying man his leather jacket to keep him warm because "it would get blood on it". Nobody backed the couple up at the time, nobody really wanted to know or get involved after it happened.
Now, that personally scares the shit out of me, and thats why I thought it time to perhaps learn how to handle myself a bit better, and not just sit there like the usual drip as these bastards walk allover you.
If you can get out of a situation, talk it through, calm it down, walk away, then ofcourse thats better and my much prefered option, but sometimes, like in the case of the girl, or the cowering lad being beaten, or fuckwits openly harassing you and your girlfriend, sometimes it reaches a point where you have to say something and stand up for yourself, and if you DO dare mutter a word in these peoples' direction then Im afraid you really have to be able to "handle" a situation with your fists.
Lee DJ seems to know just what Im on about, whether its with Chavs or "wanna be" chavs that hang out in packs, or anybody, doesnt matter who or where, these things are happening more and more.
Sirius.
