Finding one bag does not mean that she is necessarily dealing!
Anyways, I would have told her the truth. Maybe take her to one side and say "I was tidying your room before and I found this, I just wanted to let you know that I'm disappointed and I've had thought you'd have known better......" etc. I'm only 19 and speaking from experience, I'm glad my mother took that route with me. She just said, "you are aware of how dangerous it is so youo don't need telling, just think about what you're doing"
To be honest, I don't think she will think you were rooting, you were cleanin her room, if she really didn't want anyone to find anything, I suggest she not bring stuff like that into your house.
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well said Sonz, saved me a bit of typing too, lol
I know its done n dusted now but my take on it would have been:
have a quiet word. just to say what youve found, and while you feel you cant be a hypocrite as youve done similar in the past, (lol had a flashback of my mum saying then "do as I say, not as I do"
not about drug use, just in general i might add. One of the good old parentisms along with "because I said so" )
alos, she's almost an adult anyway but that doesnt mean you have to keep quiet about it being brought into your house, you have a right to get the hump about that if you want , imo. Not only is it illegal substances in your home, what if your baby was a little older, toddling.. and found what she leaves around the house
:S
As for the using aspect of it..You could just try to offer her advice , doesnt need to be in an authoritarian way. I know you probs worry as your not hear real mum but thats what I mean, speak to her as a friend / adult to adult, not like a chastised kid and you'd maybe find she'd have more respect that you've done that and in a strange sort of way bring you closer.
oh and my other thought was... if she's 17 tell her she knows where the hoover is next time her room needs cleaning ...
and even more excuse not to be tidying up in there and find anything and be in the predicament again, plus it gets you less housework too... winner!
Lets face it, you could have gone ballistic and completely bawled her out, or even called the Old Bill if you'd wanted to so I think a quiet word would be far more preferable
Crap situation to have been in though, glad you got it sorted